Conflict is often framed as something to avoid or resolve quickly. But what if conflict were not a problem to fix, but a doorway into deeper understanding? In this workshop, we explore conflict as a creative and relational force—one that reveals unmet needs, unconscious patterns, and opportunities for growth. Drawing on principles from Vivian Dittmar’s “Conflict as a Gateway” work, you’ll learn to shift from fear or defensiveness into curiosity, presence, and compassion.
The heart of this work lies in entering “the space in between”—that vulnerable, unknown terrain between your need and mine. Rather than trying to prove a point or find a quick compromise, we learn to stay in this fertile space and listen more deeply. Practical exercises support you in distinguishing between genuine needs and emotional charges, transforming power struggles into pathways toward connection. Participants are encouraged to bring real-life conflicts into the space and work with them directly, supported by tools and guidance.
By the end of the workshop, conflict no longer feels like something to fear. It becomes a skill—something you can meet with increasing grace and clarity. You’ll leave with a new awareness of how you show up in difficult moments, and the confidence to navigate disagreements in a way that honors both yourself and the other. This level is deeply empowering, not only for intimate relationships but also for teams, communities, and anyone working in spaces where tension and difference are inevitable.
I no longer feel alone with the sense that economic success alone is not fulfilling. I am
part of a community of people who feel the same way and who have set out to heal old
wounds and cultivate new forms of prosperity: better relationships with ourselves, our
fellow human beings, and our environment. That is truly wonderful!
— Timm, ”True Prosperity” workshop
The course has enabled me to find an inner connection between my needs for
closeness and distance. Step by step, I am now finding this balance in my everyday
relationships. Especially in my partnership, it is becoming easier and at the same time
more intimate.
— Leon Sommerfeldt, The Art of Relating course participant
Vivian has a profound reflection on affect that is not just theoretical, but expressed as a
transformative practice.
— John Vervaeke, author of ‘Awakening from the Meaning Crisis’, professor of
psychology and cognitive science, University of Toronto
For me, it was invaluable to recognise the difference between an emotional charge and
a real conflict of needs. And it was groundbreaking for me to experience the deep,
radiant beauty of my own need.
— Participant, “Art of Conflict” workshop
The course has totally changed me. I have finally found a way to no longer suppress
difficult feelings.
— Daniel Trumino, participant
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